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How we all feel leaving 2020 behind…

An article on goal-setting just after the New Year?

How predictable.

But, as cliché as the topic (and timing) of this post is, I sincerely hope the content is useful.

Personally, I have nothing against the idea of setting goals at the onset of a new year (or a new week, or a new day, or a new moment…). By all means, use this ‘fresh start’ to inspire you to make positive change and take action towards your goals.

My problem lies with how much importance (and therefore, pressure) that we as a society attach to the creation (note: not…

Failure may not be fun, but it can be valuable. So, how can we take power away from our fear of failure, let go of our negative emotional associations with it, and transform it into a valuable learning experience?

Failure is still heavily stigmatised in many modern-day societies. From a young age, we observe that failure is punished and that success is rewarded. We therefore learn to try to avoid the pain (both emotional and physical) associated with failure by aiming to achieve success in line with the definitions established by the external influences in our lives.

But inevitably, at some point in our life, we tried to achieve a desired ‘successful’ outcome — and we didn’t achieve it.

An exam grade that didn’t meet the required standards. A coach picking someone else to play in a sports team…

Negative (‘constructive’) feedback can be a catalyst for positive change — but only if delivered in the right way. So, how do we stop our constructive feedback from leading to destructive outcomes?

We’ve all been there.

Approaching our colleague/partner/friend/child with a potential ‘improvement point’ that we’d like them to take on board. Thoughtfully pondering how we’re going to bring it up with them. Bracing ourselves for a light confrontation; never pleasant, but sometimes necessary.

We take a deep breath, gently nudge them on the shoulder and rationally convey our thoughts…

And then chaos ensues.

Before we know it, our simple ‘improvement point’ is nowhere to be seen, lost amidst a barrage of defensive responses, argumentative counter-points and, perhaps, even a personal attack. …

Creating time to pursue our hobbies and passions has been shown to improve workplace performance, mental well-being and physical health. So, why do so many of us give up on them?

Do you ever find yourself wondering what things would be like if you’d continued on with a hobby, but think that it’s ‘too late to start again’, or that ‘you’re too busy’?

If so, you’re not alone.

In this article, I’ll discuss three reasons why we give up on our hobbies and passions — after all, until we acknowledge the cause of something, we’re unlikely to change it. I’ll then share three perspectives that we can utilise to bring our hobbies and passions back into our lives.

To me, our hobbies and passions are a unique, creative expression of identity

Kam Taj

I’m a performance coach, speaker & author. I endured Engineering at Cambridge University and survived management consulting. I like tennis and poetry.

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